Last year I celebrated my own wedding and through all the ups and downs, there were a few things I learned throughout the process that I’d love to share.
- Make it true to you
Your wedding day is all about you two! Spend some time thinking about what it means to you and how you want your day to feel to your guests. Casual, formal, fun, sophisticated? Incorporate unique elements that represent your personalities.
An awesome florist or wedding planner will help you create a cohesive look that will do this without looking too tacky.
- Traditions can be meaningful but don’t follow them blindly
My husband, Gus, and I are not really traditional people but there are some traditions that we loved and wanted to follow. We wanted to do a Vietnamese Tea Ceremony and to be more extra, Gus’ family and friends all met up down the street and they walked to our house with drums. It was a great time.
Clients often ask me if they need to have boutonnieres and corsages, who it should go to, if they need and arch or ceremony arrangements, or if they should give away the centrepieces… and while I can give advice as to what the traditions are, my answer is always: do what you want! There are so many unique and alternative weddings that there really is no wrong answer.
- It’s your big day but take care of your guests too
I don’t know about you but I love my family and friends! My guests are so special to me. So when I hear about couples who are not taking guests into consideration I greatly advise they do. Making sure everyone you are sharing this incredibly important day with is happy will make every moment a lot more enjoyable and peaceful.
Little decisions like if you know you have a few friends with dietary restrictions, try to accommodate that as best you can. These little things will go a long way and will allow everyone to enjoy the day as much as possible. It will allow for everyone to be worry free and able to connect with ease.
- Don’t lose sight of the love
In the midst of all the planning, don’t forget what it’s all about.
Understand each other’s comfort level in terms of involvement and communicate clearly with each other! Be honest about your own wishes and desires but try to listen and hear your partner. Prepare to make compromises ...that’s how the day will reflect you both!
Don’t fight over it. It’s just not worth it!
- Day of advice: Take 15 minutes to sit down and eat together.
Wedding day haze is real. You’re pumped up and focused on having a good time and all your family and friends are around so you want to talk and mingle and it’s easy to get pulled in different directions. Your planner, photographer, and videographer are all around all day. Before you know it, it’s the end of the night and you haven’t spent a quiet moment with your new partner.
You need to plan this in advance (ask your planner, venue coordinator, or even a bridesmaid) or else you’ll forget! Have a table set up with some food and drinks in a private corner (i.e. the bridal suite) that you and your lover can escape to during cocktail hour. Take 10-15 minutes to enjoy each other, relax, and eat. Trust me, you will be glad you did this!
- Post wedding day and beyond
This advice is from my mom.
When you’re having a big argument, think about your wedding day and how happy you were. Remember that feeling and why you connected in the first place. Why you fell in love. Yes things will happen and disagreements will come up but if you are able to hold onto that feeling through it all, you can know that things will be ok no matter what. Focus on how grateful you are for your partner and how special your connection is and know your love will carry you through the hardest of times.